I could very well be wrong, in fact i think i am, pls forgive. But as i contemplate the koan, what comes across to me is that my dad, or most dads, are forgiving persons like you too; while most mothers spend their lives teaching me. i don't recall being forgiven for not getting full marks in my elementary school math paper, when i got 99, and all i gotten was a warning from mom that I hope this taught you a lesson for not being hardworking when u could have gotten 100.
it's so trivial, such a small distinction, i seem to have learnt my lesson, but i don't recall having forgiven.
Life is the best teacher , having someone to forgive you when you don't get it right is waaaay better . Its a question of ...do you want someone above you or next to you . Better next to you above you or in front only blocks the view and fills your eyes with dust . Anita
Since “forgive” means “to give up resentment towards”, it's actually the other person's problem. But since resentment is painful, usually a response from me of humility or apology is effective. That way, even if they still think I'm a jackass, at least they're not in pain.
I think that forgiving but not forgetting is a foundation of wisdom.
But to return to the question of the day, I guess that I would have to say that I would prefer to have someone to teach me, a person who is absent resentment and the need to punish. Then we can just make our mistakes and get on with the show.
If the choice is between two hypothetical ones, then, of course, I'll choose someone to teach me, hopefully so that I won't create anyone who I might need to forgive me. If there is only one, who has something to forgive, he would take precedence.
There is a difference?
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ReplyDeleteI could very well be wrong, in fact i think i am, pls forgive. But as i contemplate the koan, what comes across to me is that my dad, or most dads, are forgiving persons like you too; while most mothers spend their lives teaching me. i don't recall being forgiven for not getting full marks in my elementary school math paper, when i got 99, and all i gotten was a warning from mom that I hope this taught you a lesson for not being hardworking when u could have gotten 100.
it's so trivial, such a small distinction, i seem to have learnt my lesson, but i don't recall having forgiven.
why? why? i ask myself.
sorries,
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Would rather teach than forgive and be forgiven than be taught.
ReplyDeleteI'll let you know when I can forgive and start teaching MYSELF!!!
ReplyDeleteLife is the best teacher , having someone to forgive you when you don't get it right is waaaay better . Its a question of ...do you want someone above you or next to you . Better next to you above you or in front only blocks the view and fills your eyes with dust . Anita
ReplyDeleteIt's a bit of an odd question.
ReplyDeleteSince “forgive” means “to give up resentment towards”, it's actually the other person's problem. But since resentment is painful, usually a response from me of humility or apology is effective. That way, even if they still think I'm a jackass, at least they're not in pain.
I think that forgiving but not forgetting is a foundation of wisdom.
But to return to the question of the day, I guess that I would have to say that I would prefer to have someone to teach me, a person who is absent resentment and the need to punish. Then we can just make our mistakes and get on with the show.
If the choice is between two hypothetical ones, then, of course, I'll choose someone to teach me, hopefully so that I won't create anyone who I might need to forgive me. If there is only one, who has something to forgive, he would take precedence.
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