In American-Tibetan Buddhism there's some related to "real" compassion that has been labeled "idiot compassion."
"Idiot compassion" is what Western Psychologists call "enabling."
I have seen too much "enabling" in every aspect of my life. Instead of saying or doing uncomfortable things to or for someone, you "yes" them, cover up for them, lie, cheat or worse for them, Yet stepping up and being straightforward sometimes requires great tact and care, and does not always work out how you intended it to; this comprises an aspect of what Buddhism refers to as "skillful means."
For better or worse I believe that applying Occam's Razor is the best first effort. I know others prefer subtly and indirection, something I aspire to use effectively but only when a straightfoward approach fails.
Cliche day, eh?
ReplyDeleteI find compassion here at Black Moon Zendo.
ReplyDeleteWasn't that Zendo closed sometime ago?
DeleteWhen you say you find compassion at Black Moon Zendo, what does that mean?
Re: Compassion
ReplyDeleteIn American-Tibetan Buddhism there's some related to "real" compassion that has been labeled "idiot compassion."
"Idiot compassion" is what Western Psychologists call "enabling."
I have seen too much "enabling" in every aspect of my life. Instead of saying or doing uncomfortable things to or for someone, you "yes" them, cover up for them, lie, cheat or worse for them, Yet stepping up and being straightforward sometimes requires great tact and care, and does not always work out how you intended it to; this comprises an aspect of what Buddhism refers to as "skillful means."
For better or worse I believe that applying Occam's Razor is the best first effort. I know others prefer subtly and indirection, something I aspire to use effectively but only when a straightfoward approach fails.