Is there a hierarchy or contrast between "necessity" and "choice?" Is the one more accurate or useful or true than the other as a reference point when circumstances pop up? Or is it just apples and oranges?
I don't know, but I have a hunch that even if the load is initially heavier, the result is more peaceful and coherent if "choice" is awarded the high seat.
No excuses, no gods, more appropriate responsibility, less whining ... I choose.
After that, the only question that remains is the reliability of this "I."
But I could be off-base ... a choice I have made often enough in the past.