Dear Adam,Solemnity took place over the past week or more when the earthquakes struck Nepal then Sabah in Malaysia.Seriousness, is when moments ago I found myself staring point blank at a girl's photo young enough to be your granddaughter, and I realised that it may mean something that the elders of two parties talk about marriage on my behalf.Liberty is beautiful, yet it is less about a lack of preference, more so that preference may have gotten Mahakasyappa somewhere yet he was without a son despite being offered proper marriage by his parents and his in-laws. Even if the zen patriach had starved himself to death, he still owed his parents and in-laws a grand-offspring. Even if he hid in the mountains till Maitreya appears as a Buddha, he still owed his parents and in-laws a grand-offspring. Part of the reason why I kept coming back as a zen student was less about your spiritual attainments, but more so because you bothered having sons and daughters.
Here's John Cleese on the subject...http://www.videobash.com/video_show/why-laughing-during-something-serious-isn-t-disrespectful-1217292