When it comes to the confusion and sorrow of death -- the time when it is time to go and those who are not yet going are searching for words that never really reach -- I suspect that two things might provide pretty good tools:
Music and animals.
Each has one over-riding strong point and relevance:
They don''t talk, so the helplessness is not so glaringly obvious.
Knowing my own health issues i found myself looking up what my probably experience will be. There's the comfortably drugged approach and the alternative natural way. But this death is only probable as a bus could hit me before then. I imagine a feeling of readiness is helpful, that fighting it is not. And how much fear will be in play can't be known until it comes.
ReplyDeleteWhen my folks died i was devastated. There's nothing you can know that will prepare you for the emotional impact of death. But i can't imagine my own death being as hurtful as when i lost folks. But the wild card is fear.