Friday, October 3, 2014

picture imperfect

Being who you are in a world where others work very hard at being who they aren't is a pretty attractive, often daring, attribute ... maybe that's what jolted me a bit when seeing pictures of my younger son, Ives, as they appeared in a newspaper advertising tab yesterday.

It was sort of like seeing the faces of those who have been to a sesshin or Zen retreat -- after three or four days, people become naturally beautiful. The in-control fakin'-it drops off. It's not as if anyone could contrive the posture or presence by 'modeling.'

Others may not see my son's photos and have the same reaction. I am, after all, the father of my son. But the notion of my son "modeling" felt weird basically because I don't imagine him as a pretty person who phonies things up. There are other ways in which he plays the protective contrivance game, but 'pretty' is a bit too precious for him ... that's why he has tattoos.

He didn't volunteer to be a model. He just worked for a store that sold apparel and part of the deal was that he had to model stuff. To me, he just looks like my son ... maybe to others he looks like a posturing contrivance like a 'model.'

What a lot of energy, being who you aren't when being who you are is so much more attractive and effective.


  1. Well, better than seeing him in the police blotter.

  2. Jesus Adam, there is no doubt about his paternity! My God, he looks like you!

  3. He is a good looking lad Adam...

  4. Kobutsu -- You are just about the only person who thinks so.

  5. He does not look like you (although you are both handsome). Maybe he looks like your father as a young man.

  6. I was at a China website that offered a free download of a Japanese game that is translated into Simplified Chinese. In fact yesterday I bothered going downtown in Singapore in search of the off-the-shelf version, and was advised by the shopkeeper that there was a China version going at S$99 and a Taiwanese version going at S$129, I bought neither because the computer game was about the warring era in Japan when buddhist monks and shinto like priests also took up armaments, chopping off each others' heads were an inconvenient honorific way of conceding defeat in Japan back then.

    I am pretty much against armaments as well as military confrontations as adrenaline pumping the latest american Electronic Arts' First Person Shooters are today. Whether Ives look handsome or otherwise, look like you or otherwise, being a model is an inconvenient decent livelihood versus joining the military where there are greater moral dilemmas in life.

    Between Medal of Honor winners marketing the first warbonds till good young men selling China-made or Japanese-made clothes, close till a century has passed.

    I can certainly use a romantic date as handsome as I look, just as I can imagine girls keen on picking up the boyish Adam Jr. :-D

    What I have no answer regarding, is whether a Chinese company translating and pirating a Japanese software game and putting it available as a free download on a China server - does that constitute theft or should I say shyingly, "at least downloading that game is better than reading news about violence in Syria" - honestly ain't very keen on another German blonde showcasing their bedroom antics each time I navigate my web browser.

    There comes a point of time when software piracy meets nationalism, should we download a Taiwan Chinese pirated Japanese software, or should we download a China Chinese pirated Japanese software or if both are a violation of my training precepts.. who is gonna wank me today..

    *Oh please China my mother just got upset when she saw Megan Fox kissing sha-what's-his-name on Transformers 2*